One of my main sources of excitement about the Dream Website University project is our holistic approach to online success. I’ve been teaching on & offline since 2000. Based on that experience and on overcoming my own personal challenges, it’s become obvious to me that always, always, always — did I say ALWAYS? — the main obstacle to a life of joy & abundance has been low level of self-respect, self-appreciation, and self-love.

You can master to perfection your outer game: website creation with WordPress; mailing lists/autoresponders with iContact, AWeber, MailChimp or whatever else is out there; you can hone your shopping cart chops to perfection with e-junkie or 1ShoppingCart; you can religiously study and emulate every single step Steve Pavlina, Darren Rowse, or Leo Babauta have ever taken along their path to online superstardom, and this is an important part of your journey, but nothing will really help much if your inner world, your inner game is a mess.

One of the special properties of our courses here at Dream Website University is that we help you master your inner game along with boosting your tech & online communication skills (your outer game). We show our students what they can do to allow their creativity to flow in powerful currents and welcome the natural flow of abundance into their lives.

Now how about some success coaching in action!

Here we go: Michael Neill has been my favorite supercoach ever since I discovered his show “You Can Have What You Want” on Hay House Radio so I joined his Genius Catalyst Community forum a few days back. As I was surfing along the updates in the Building Business Genius section this morning, I discovered a message by a gentleman we can call Mr. X. While I was responding to his concerns, I realized they’re quite universal and decided to share my reply with you.

Background information: Mr. X is “interested in NLP, coaching and personal development.” He currently works in sales but feels that it’s time to move on to his passion for combining sports with personal development coaching. He’s aleady done some volunteer coaching, had a good time at it, and loves helping people make headway in their lives.

Mr. X’s questions:

With my thoughts on where I’d like to be, would I be better heading down the NLP route, or more of a life coaching route? I get the distinct impression (rightly or wrongly) that life coaching is more generalised and I can use NLP to focus on certain scenarios. Would this be a correct assumption?

My only other battle is with the ‘little voice’ It keeps saying ‘Stop dreaming, and get a ‘proper’ job’ Any tips on a) Shutting the little sod up, and b) transitioning to where I want to be.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, thanks in advance.

Feedback:

Discovering something you really enjoy doing for a living is a fantastic first step! Congratulations!

The bottom line is that you like empowering people to blossom and expand so — if you really have to classify — you could consider your work to be life coaching while NLP could be one of the tools, one of the approaches you use to make a difference.

You can keep things deliciously open — no need to self-limit with labels — you might like to leave yourself space for unlimited expansion, space to master and share new ways of supporting your clients. NLP is a great starting point — it has helped many folks make surprisingly fast progress — but then keep learning new things and delightfully broaden the ways you can support your people. Offer them a wide variety of options to transcend their limitations and the value of what you’re doing (and getting back) will also constantly grow.

Regarding the little “job” voice in your head: Simple decision — If we assume that living with joy and inspiration is a priority for you, which experience makes you happier: empowering people or listening to social conditioning messages playing by default in your mind?

Nothing wrong with having a job, of course. You might do this for a bit until your coaching takes off. You might want to combine doing sales (your current field) but in the realm of human potential development: Michael has a sweet affiliate program too. What, no website? Check the PS section below.

Also, if you have time and energy left to listen to little voices doubting your ability to succeed and live the life of your dreams, you simply need to focus your ENTIRE energy on what you want and why you want it. Don’t struggle or feel bad about negative self-talk — your attention will feed it with more energy. If you trip every once in a while — no biggie — gently redirect your mind to thoughts & feelings that nurture your joy and enthusiasm.

If not you, then who? If not now, then when? If not this, then what?

With love,
Nik